Gregory -- thank you so much for reading and for your important comment. my hope is that we have become better (and we have gotten a lot of DM on linkedin but also good comments and open and honest ones) and that it is central to societal well being that we work on this topic all together.
after we wrote i came across this post that really resonated and i think it might resonate with you too (https://graslux.com/masculinity-fluxing-through-the-gender-powershift-8e2f10fae51b).
managing leaves is a challenging process and this post with occupational med professionals tries to help employers and employees be better at this delicate process (https://carinisabelknoop.medium.com/managing-minds-at-work-the-occupational-medicine-prescription-7036b08879ce)