hello sebastian, thank you very much for reading our piece and taking the time to respond. and share your thoughts. ( to me microagressions may be a result of implicit bias, but they are expressed biases or acted biases--verbal non-verbal and acts).

i will take some time to think about this but in general i totally agree about our collective need for more tools for emotional regulation, which seems to be very very hard in the past few years especially.

for conversations around perceived microaggressions to be productive requires part of what you suggest -- that all parties take a moment to think about assumptions and biases before engaging (or retaliating). as we discussed, there is a lot of reactivity potential everywhere -- i have to catch myself becoming defensive when others point out something to me. so it is a practice of introspection and inquiry for all parties involved.